When I decided to work remotely for three months, I did not feel there were very many hard decisions for me to make.
- Will I stay home for the southern cold winter, or will I go north were everyday would be warm and perfect?
- On one hand I would be giving up my daily routine which I quite like, then on the other hand a new environment and routine could be quite stimulating?
- I would be away from any major cities, but much of my work is communicated through emails and phone conversations?
Not all decisions are this simple; so what makes some choices appear easy whilst others painfully difficult?
Most of the choices we make involve comparisons based on values and reasons.
The decisions I made were easy, because one choice was clearly better than the other. I had “good reasons” and arguments to support my choice.
So many of us deliberate over a hard choices because we believe that one decision needs to be better than the other. Indeed we have become accustomed to thinking this way, that there are good and bad decisions and right and wrong choices.
Hard decisions are hard because there is no definitive right or wrong nor better or worse. We are faced with an element of the unknown with no safe obvious option. Allow doubt to creep in and the choice becomes even more difficult!
Though what if we were to view a hard decision as a choice where both options were of equal value? With no better or best alternative we are free to look within, examine our own values and decide.
Sure we can avoid the hard decisions and take the easy road, but in doing so we drift from one “easy option” to the next, choosing the most obvious reasons and sticking to the status quo. However in making hard decisions we take the opportunity to create our own road, we decide to support our choices with our own reasons and values.